A Supportive Community & Resources for Grandparents
Welcome to Grand AlienNation
If your adult child won’t talk to you, if you’re forbidden from seeing your grandchildren, or if family holidays now happen without you, you’ve found your people. Welcome to GrandAlienNation, where thousands of estranged parents and alienated grandparents discover they’re not alone, they’re not crazy, and this silent treatment isn’t their fault.
Whether your estranged adult child cut contact after a disagreement, following years of increasingly distant or volatile relationships, or seemingly for no reason at all, we provide the tools, community, and concrete steps you need to heal from parental alienation while preparing for the possibility of reconciliation. Because here’s what we know: the current wave of family estrangement will end, your adult children may one day reach out, and when that call comes, you’ll be ready, not desperate, not bitter, but genuinely prepared for whatever comes next.
This isn’t about blame or dwelling in grief. It’s about understanding why adult children estrange themselves, learning to thrive despite grandparent alienation, and building a meaningful life whether or not reconciliation happens. You didn’t deserve this, but you do deserve support, answers, and a path forward.
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They say that the average length of estrangement is 7 years, and to us, that’s 6.5 years too long. We have a theory and a plan to shorten that curve and it can only be done with your help.
By talking about estrangement, and empowering alienated parents and grandparents, we have some ideas that could possibly put an end to this horrible travesty that is tearing families apart.
On our YouTube channel we will be addressing major concerns, talking about what the kids are saying and putting their behavior on blast. So that some day, it won’t be tolerated by their peers, and it will ACTUALLY be shameful to hurt your parents (and the littles) in that manner.
True, in some cases, the trauma and abuse are understandable. However, for those who are jumping on the trend of estrangement as a peculiar “me too” movement, driven by the current therapy industry, it could come to an end very soon.
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The Estrangement Epidemic: Why So Many Families Are Breaking Apart
Across the world, families are breaking apart in unprecedented numbers. Parents are cut off from their adult children. Grandparents are locked out of their grandchildren’s lives. What was once unthinkable has become heartbreakingly common—and too many suffer in silence.
At GrandAlienNation, we believe silence helps no one. We’re here to shine a light on the growing crisis of estrangement, offer resources for healing, and create ways for grandparents to leave a visible, lasting legacy their grandchildren can one day find. You don’t have to disappear. You don’t have to wait quietly. Together, we can break the silence.
To learn more about our mission and vision, please visit our About page
The Therapy Industry’s Role in Fueling Estrangement
In recent years, a troubling shift has emerged in the mental health field. Some therapists, often influenced by trending “cut-off culture,” are advising clients to sever ties with parents rather than work through conflict. While boundaries are essential, replacing resolution with permanent estrangement leaves families fractured and relationships beyond repair. This approach overlooks the long-term emotional toll on all involved—especially children caught in the middle.
At GrandAlienNation, we challenge this one-sided narrative. Healing doesn’t have to mean walking away; it can mean doing the work to rebuild, understand, and grow—together.
Boundaries vs. Barriers: When Self-Care Turns Into Alienation
Healthy boundaries protect relationships. But when boundaries become rigid walls, they can shut out the very people who once offered love, support, and stability. In today’s “self-care” culture, the line between protecting your peace and erasing family ties is becoming dangerously blurred. True healing doesn’t require erasing your parents or grandparents from your life—it requires honest dialogue, empathy, and a willingness to address pain without permanent exile.
At GrandAlienNation, we believe in boundaries that build bridges, not barriers, so families can heal instead of fall apart.
You’re Not Helpless: Grandparents Can Reclaim Their Voice
Estrangement can leave you feeling silenced, erased, and powerless—but you are not without options. Your story matters, your love matters, and your voice still carries weight.
At GrandAlienNation, we believe every grandparent has the power to be seen, heard, and remembered. You’ll discover ways to share your truth, preserve your legacy, and leave a trail of love your grandchildren can follow. Reconnection may take time, but your journey starts with the belief that you are not helpless—and you are never alone.
Advocacy Groups
Grandparent alienation is an often-overlooked family crisis where loving grandparents are deliberately cut off from their grandchildren, usually due to conflicts with the children’s parents.
Child Visitation Regulations
To make changes to child visitation regulations in your state, especially regarding grandparents’ visitation rights, you’ll need to approach this as both a personal and a systemic effort.
Early Childcare & Development
Grandparent care, which has received negative attention in the past, is shown to be positively associated with vocabulary test scores, but also positively related to problem behavioural scores.
An Unacknowledged Form of Family Violence
Fraudulently preventing you from having meaningful relationships with your grandchildren for baseless reasons is a covert form of family violence and elder abuse.
A Global Epidemic
“Research from Cornell University found that 27% of Americans experience family estrangement (Pillemer, 2020), though specific data on grandparent alienation remains limited. While older studies suggested 1 in 7 grandparents faced alienation, the true scope today is likely far worse. Support organizations report unprecedented demand for services since 2020, with some seeing triple-digit growth in membership, yet researchers haven’t caught up to document this epidemic. The absence of current data doesn’t mean the problem doesn’t exist—it means millions of grandparents are suffering in undocumented silence.”
Take action to protect your relationship with your grandchildren.
What is grandparent alienation?
Grandparent alienation is a global epidemic where one out of 7 grandparents have been denied having a relationship with their grandchildren.
How does the abuse of grandparents occur?
The abuse of grandparents is increasing. The alienation and disconnection with grandkids is causing loneliness, heartache, and physical ailments brought on by the stress of wondering why they are being treated with such cruelty. Many adult children threaten their parents with legal action for baseless reasons such as sending gifts, cards or letters to their grandchildren.
What are the guidelines for grandparents?
Currently, each state has different guidelines to allow grandparents the right to petition for visitation. We have some suggestions on our blog to help bring you a sense of purpose and accomplishment. Joining our cause can do just that.
Why is this website important?
The goal of this website is to provide a resource for grandparents to learn what they can do to improve their situation and the loneliness and isolation that is often associated with this phenomenon.
What are the effects grandparent alienation?
The mental well-being and physical health is in jeopardy for both the children and grandparents involved in this situation.
Is elder abuse illegal?
Elder abuse is illegal and grandparents are a protected class in this country.
